It may not be hard to tell the difference but can be difficult to choose the right one. The answer reflects the health of a leader’s Ego that can affect many aspects of his or her leadership— vision, image, power, stability, etc. To take leadership to Level 5, it is essential for leaders to focus on the big picture than personal benefits, so they can make independent decision, open to new ideas, be fair to others, etc. Jim Colin’s humility reflects of a healthy Ego that can make the focus nature. It wastes time work on secondary behaviors.
On the other hand, it challenges many leaders to tell an ass kisser from a praiser or know talent at a personal level, not to mention to utilize an ass kisser. The Executive 6Q Assessment helps leaders scan their development needs and use the right people.
Parents are often the primary impact- the victims are usually unfavorable children or those overloaded with stringent standards. To these parents, the children are never good enough, which weakens the health of their Ego. Child neglect and abuse have the worse impact. Primary caregivers are usually the next significant impact. England King George VI’s stuttering had a lot to do with how his nanny mistreated him when he was little. The rest are various people at society, such as teachers, schoolmates, bosses, colleagues, etc.
Victims can withdraw from society, like the King George V. Victims can also look for approvals, be eager to tell the world how smart they are, or abuse others, which will destroy their vision, image and power. When a leader is eager for approvals, ass kissing is more musical than praise. The business empire will fall even faster.
By restoring the health of their Ego, many negative behaviors can go away quickly since they are secondary. It usually takes weeks to months with the right tools and a deep commitment. Behaviors here reflect an injured Ego; therefore, it can be painful and slow to “better” the reflection. Does every Ego have a quick solution? We do not take cases that involve ethics and abuse.
Leaders usually have other needs, for example, innovation, leadership styles, conflict management, resilience development and other performance management, to further strengthen the health of their Ego.
To use the right people is the first step to success. An ass kisser can serve unique purposes if management is setup right. The background check and track records are necessary. However, they cannot anticipate the future performance, which is the to determine if the person can do the job. To do so, leaders need not only assess individual current capacities, but also their level, performance and potential under different weather. “Honesty and self-awareness” that Psychology or behavior tests rely on usually do not apply to an ass kisser. Here is the comparison between the 6Q Whole System Approach and partial ones.
The world is changing fast. The more leaders can anticipate, the better leaders can use the right people. Although Gut feeling is good, the leadership and performance MRI provides scientific evidences and therefore is more reliable. We help leaders see more, see far, and win big.
Level 5 Leadership development is not to tie leaders with high standards but make learning and development as nature, healthy and easy as possible. Behavior and EQ alone cannot solve all issues, for example:
1. Unwise investments.
2. Use a wrong person.
3. Setbacks and failures.
4. Poor health.